It seems that a lot of people have skewed or distorted perspectives about what makes up a strength or a weakness. I believe this comes from what they experienced in their past. Often, the lessons we learned in childhood don’t always translate to healthy adult interactions.
I’ve often heard that to show fear or ask for help is a weakness. It may be that when doing either one as a youngster or adult, the consequences were dire. Bullying, punishments, verbal humiliation or reprimands and the like could easily make someone feel small, insignificant, ashamed, guilty, and weak. We learn to avoid showing that ‘weakness’ and its cause out of a sense of self-preservation.
In a healthy adult relationship, however, all emotions and appropriate expressions of our humanity are needed in order to foster clear communication and a trust-filled intimacy. Without these two entities, relationships falter.
With them, relationships have a chance to grow, change, and become stronger. Both people also feel stronger within themselves and the relationship. Showing our true emotions to another takes courage, which comes from a place of strength. Acknowledging that we can’t do everything by ourselves – the same.
It takes strength to allow our vulnerabilities to show, as well as accepting the vulnerabilities of others. There is no weakness in being human.